Last year I visited the gay pride for photographing extravagant outgoing people. Walking around in the streets of Amsterdam with my camera I met the lovely Simona Kira Dissegna.
Simona is actress in the fetish scene. I send her some pictures on facebook, and we kept in touch. We also had a mutual friend who is making a documentary about her life. One year later we decided to do a photo session. We both wanted to make some art over the transgender theme.
I remember it was on a Sunday drive to Amsterdam, where Simona is living with her new girlfriend Janey also transgender. I asked Simona that I always wondered why people work or go out in the fetish scene and everything that has to do with kinky sex. I had some questions. Do I understand and want to know why? I did a lot of research in the BDSM scene and talked to many people about it during my investigation. Still, I don’t understand what is so appealing about it. What could be the reason or desire why people love to play it?
According to Simona BDSM are the planning and organizing by practicing BDSM and to work in the scene more self-love fantasies and the physical limitations, focusing on intense stimuli playing with the balance of power makes it exciting. Visiting clubs and private events in a latex suit or leather wearing a mask. The use of several methods for sexual stimulation like spanking, ropes using different attributes it is a lifestyle.
I ask Simona how do you manage this business? She tells as a professional worker and performer sometimes it takes responsibility to take control in some situations. Having a BDSM relationship being a submissive instead being a dominant but you can make a switch for work-related paid assignments and her partner Janey who is a sub. Working in the sex industry and making a living out of it.
Through research knowing that SM is not a new thing in our society and that Marquis de Sade has written his first novel in 1785, the 120 days of Sodom, republished in 1904 besides that cruelty, this film has to offer. The filming of the book by Pasolini has the underlying thought making an indictment against the excesses of capitalism thus also autocratic political ideology. Many of the exhibited humiliations are symbolic in this film and making his point is that power and corruption work in hand and always has to be careful that there is never too much power in too many hands.
Some BDSM players are intrigued by the description of the myth Lucifer. Not the morning star Lucifer from the common Bible but the tradition from the Christian and the Jewish, the fallen angel. Is it the battle of Satan against GOD? Based on experience and Bible study that Lucifer and Satan are two different beings and that “Lucifer” has become an indication of the devil. A Satan or devil is a random fallen angel, while Satan strikes the leader of all fallen angels.
The term 24/7 Dominant/submissive lifestyle is about a committed relationship in which a power exchange shapes and pervades all of the partner's interactions. The submissive willingly and consensually cedes control and authority to the dominant. The dominant takes responsibility for that control and for making all the conscious decisions within the relationship. While the submissive may voice a dissenting vote, the dominant always makes the final decision. According to 24/7 D/s lifestyle means that the relationship is lived twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. Some people have 24/7 D/s lifestyle relationships that do not even include S/M activities. source: MafiaDoc
In my opinion knowledge about human sexual desire is somewhat limited when it comes to BDSM and I recently read somewhere that in Berlin it is prohibited. It is not excepted in our society and creates a huge taboo. In our world, with high technology, quantum psychics and access to spiritual knowledge you might think times have changed but when it comes to our sexuality nothing much has changed. Still, meeting Simona was very interesting. I like this openness about her lifestyle giving me the opportunity to share and doing this research to get a better understanding of the human nature, the mind, and our sexuality. This research is about my subconscious mind and what the conscious mind thinks.