My grandmother passed away suddenly in February 2015. At the time, I was working on a different photographic project. Instead of continuing with my work, I decided to return home and spend time with my grandfather as a way of coping with the situation. He suffered from AMD (age-related macular degeneration), a disease that results in almost no vision in the center of the visual field, as well as glaucoma, a slow loss of vision, and impaired hearing. So in a way, my grandfather lost his eyes and ears when she died.
During that period, I spent a lot of time with him—I stayed over, helped him with errands, talked about his memories. I appreciated simply being in his presence.
This particular situation—the death of one partner before the other—is inevitable, and the subject is maybe a bit taboo. No one likes to talk about it, but it happens.
My grandfather passed away in March last year. He never really moved on.
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